The True Meaning of Success

How would you define “Success”?

The Oxford Dictionary says:

Success /səkˈsɛs/

1 the accomplishment of an aim or purpose -
the attainment of fame, wealth, or social status.

But is this really the true meaning of success?
If that’s the case, what could you say about these “successful” people?

Fame

  • Marilyn Monroe committed suicide at the height of her career.
  • Ludwig Boltzmann (1906), Austrian physicist famous for thermodynamics and the atomic theory, hanging
  • Johnny Ace (1954), American singer, self-inflicted gunshot
  • Lembit Oll (1999), Estonian chess Grandmaster, jumped out of window
  • Edwin Valero (2010), Venezuelan boxer, hanging, after arrest on suspicion of murdering his wife

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/

Wealth

In 1923, a group of the world’s most successful financiers met at the Edgewater Beach Hotel in Chicago. These tycoons were extremely rich & altogether they controlled more wealth than there was in the US Treasury. Their success stories were published everywhere inspiring many to follow their fine examples. Just look at who they were:

1. Arthur Cutten – The greatest wheat speculator.
2. Albert Fall – The Secretary of Interior in President Harding’s cabinet.
3. Leon Fraser – The president of the Bank of International Settlements.
4. Howard Hopson – The president of the largest gas company.
5. Ivar Kreuger – Head of the world’s greatest monopoly.
6. Jesse Livermore – The greatest bear in Wall Street.
7. Charles Schwan – The president of the largest independent steel company.
8. Richard Whitney – The president of the New York Stock Exchange.

But 27 years later in 1948, this was what happened to them:
1. Arthur Cutten died abroad insolvent.
2. The penniless Albert Fall was pardoned from prison so that he could die at home.
3. Leon Fraser commited suicide.
4. Howard Hopson was insane.
5. Ivar Kreuger commited suicide.
6. Jesse Livermore commited suicide.
7. Charles Schwan was bankrupt & had to live on borrowed money the last 5 years of his life before his death.
8. Richard Whitney was recently released from Sing Sing Prison.

Source: http://www.snopes.com/glurge/fortune.asp

Social Status

  • Forrest Howard Anderson (1989), Governor of Montana, self-inflicted gunshot
  • José Manuel Balmaceda (1891), President of Chile, self-inflicted gunshot
  • Robert M. McLane (1904), American mayor of Baltimore, self-inflicted gunshot

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/

Even the great Philosopher, Solomon, said:

16 I thought to myself, “Look, I have grown and increased in wisdom more than anyone who has ruled over Jerusalem before me; I have experienced much of wisdom and knowledge.” 17 Then I applied myself to the understanding of wisdom, and also of madness and folly, but I learned that this, too, is a chasing after the wind.

18 For with much wisdom comes much sorrow;
the more knowledge, the more grief. ~Ecclesiastes 1:16-18

10 I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;
I refused my heart no pleasure.
My heart took delight in all my work,
and this was the reward for all my labor.

11 Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done
and what I had toiled to achieve,
everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;
nothing was gained under the sun. ~Ecclesiastes 2:10-11

10 Whoever loves money never has money enough;
whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.
This too is meaningless.

11 As goods increase,
so do those who consume them.
And what benefit are they to the owner
except to feast his eyes on them?

12 The sleep of a laborer is sweet,
whether he eats little or much,
but the abundance of a rich man
permits him no sleep. ~Ecclesiastes 5:10-12

If either of fame, wealth, or social status is not the true meaning of success…
Then what could that be?

Jeremiah 9:23-24 says:

“This is what the LORD says:
“Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom
or the strong man boast of his strength
or the rich man boast of his riches,

but let him who boasts boast about this:
that he understands and knows me,
that I am the LORD, who exercises kindness,
justice and righteousness on earth,
for in these I delight,” declares the LORD.”

Here is one interesting fact about the book of Ecclesiastes.
Notice the great Philosopher’s conclusion:

13 Now all has been heard;
here is the conclusion of the matter:
Fear God and keep his commandments,
for this is the whole duty of man.

14 For God will bring every deed into judgment,
including every hidden thing,
whether it is good or evil. ~Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

And Matthew 16:26 says:

26What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul?

Would you like to be successful?
Then,

“In everything you do, put God first, and He will direct you and crown your efforts with success.” ~Proverbs 3:6

~ Eric

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Are You Fruitful?

Have you wished that EVERYTHING you do be ALWAYS fruitful?

Well, of course, yes!

But, you may think “The exact opposite is what’s exactly happening… and it is sad…”

Psalm 1 is good source of encouragement and enlightenment when it comes to being fruitful.
Quoting:

1 Blessed is the man
who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked
or stand in the way of sinners
or sit in the seat of mockers.

2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

3 He is like a tree planted by streams of water,
which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither.
Whatever he does prospers.

4 Not so the wicked!
They are like chaff
that the wind blows away.

5 Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.

6 For the LORD watches over the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked will perish.

Err.. Where’s being fruitful there? I just see a man who does not stand in the way of the sinners, a tree by a riverside, and a chaff blown away!
Where’s the “Do this.. and do that.. Don’t do this.. and don’t do that…” in order to be fruitful?

Hmm.. then you might have missed the point.

I would like to ask you? When would a tree bear its fruit?
The answer – in its season, right?

Then when and how could I be fruitful?
The answer – in season, and by your reactions, respectively.

I once prayed, “Lord, please give me patience right now!” And you know what, God answered by giving me a very hard and challenging situation.

I once prayed, “Lord, please grant me goodness and kindness..” And God answered by letting me encounter an EGR person (Extra-Grace Required) – a person that could irritate you very easily.

I once prayed, “Lord, please give me more faith…” And, there you go – simultaneous trials and hardships.

Just come to think of it:

  • How could you know patience, if you were not challenged to the maximum level?
  • How could you know kindness, if you haven’t encountered an irritating person to use the kindness for?
  • How could you have more faith, if all you experience is comfort – of which is the time the natural human tendency is not to rely on God anymore since everything “seems” running just fine…

Notice the tree on the passage:

“…like a tree planted by streams of water,
which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither.
Whatever he does prospers.”

Extreme heat might come, but the tree will nevertheless stand still because its roots are well-grounded along a stream of water. Since water is abundant, nutrients still circulates throughout its body and into its leaves making it a healthy and a very alive creature.

How could one be like that tree?

Let’s look at the first few verses:

Blessed is the man
who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked
or stand in the way of sinners
or sit in the seat of mockers.

But his delight is in the law of the LORD,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

Turn away from evil things and delight yourself in the Lord, and in His Word!

Are you wondering why still you are not fruitful in the things that you do?
Perhaps, you are still expecting to get the “nourishment” from a wrong source…

~ Eric

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Even When The Tears Are Falling


Everything Is Beautiful
by Starfield

Worn out, wasted
Like a bird with broken wings
Sometimes grace reminds me
I don’t get to be the king

But love it washes over
Love it pulls me closer
Love it changes everthing

Everything is beautiful
Even when the tears are falling
I don’t need a miracle to believe
Even in the crashing down
I can hear redemtion calling
And everything is beautiful to me

Sweetly, You release me
From the weight of what I’ve done
The trigger trips the hammer
But the bullets never come

And love it washes over
Love it pulls me closer
Love it changes everything

Everything is beautiful
Even when the tears are falling
I don’t need a miracle to believe
Even in the crashing down
I can hear redemption calling
And everything is beautiful to me

And love like a landslide
Like the wind
Spins around me pulls me in
At it’s unveiling, I begin

Everything is beautiful
Even when the tears are falling
I don’t need a miracle to believe
Even in the crashing down
I can hear redemption calling
And everything is beautiful to me (2x)

It’s really fun thanking God if everything around seems fine.
It’s really enjoyable praising God if it seems all are going well, without any trouble at all…

Really? How about when you encounter at least one of these things, perhaps:

  • your auntie died last 2008
  • your uncle died last 2009
  • since 2008, your family’s financial debt is almost at about 6-digit Php
  • your house is still not yours, still paying for the mortgage
  • your dad was stabbed twice in the stomach last first few days of January 2010
  • it seems justice is not on your side; the criminal case against the stabber was doubtfully postponed by the judge twice, then rescheduled to June 14 (an obvious Holiday – Philippine Independence Day), which might be rescheduled again to August since July is fully booked
  • the stabber filed a leave of absence, and the prosecutor (should be your attorney for your side) agreed, and incidentally, the stabber is an (OFW) Overseas Filipino Worker Seaman
  • since your dad was handicapped, he could not get a job to sustain the family’s financial matters

Now, will you still “enjoy” thanking and praising God?
Will it still be “fun”?

Of everything that has happened, the story of Job in the Bible really inspires me.

  • ALL of the sources of his family’s income was instantly killed
  • ALL of his sons and daughters died at the same time
  • ALL of the parts of his body was covered with sores, from his scalp to the soles of his feet, giving him excruciating pain

BUT, despite ALL of these, he said in Job 1:20-21,

13 One day when Job’s sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, 14 a messenger came to Job and said, “The oxen were plowing and the donkeys were grazing nearby, 15 and the Sabeans attacked and carried them off. They put the servants to the sword, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”

16 While he was still speaking, another messenger came and said, “The fire of God fell from the sky and burned up the sheep and the servants, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”

17 While he was still speaking, another messenger came and said, “The Chaldeans formed three raiding parties and swept down on your camels and carried them off. They put the servants to the sword, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”

18 While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, “Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, 19 when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”

20 At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship 21 and said:
“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,
and naked I will depart.
The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away;
may the name of the LORD be praised.”

How big is this man’s faith!

As the song says:

Everything is beautiful
Even when the tears are falling
I don’t need a miracle to believe
Even in the crashing down
I can hear redemtion calling
And everything is beautiful to me

Really, I do not need a miracle to believe that my God is an awesome, powerful, and loving God!
Even when the tears are falling, even when all seems crashing down on our family…

Maybe I could not laugh at it, or perhaps, I could not throw a smile,
But I know I “enjoy” thanking and praising God deep inside my heart – the only Person I believe I could hold on to until the end.

Because He has promised in Deuteronomy 31:6,

6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified… for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

I praise you, Lord, even when my tears are falling…

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The Love Languages

Picky Picture Wednesday


Have you heard anything about the Five Love Languages already?

Ok, I guess you may be asking me now “Duh, why would I be interested in that thing? I know how to love anyway!”

Then, I have these questions for you…

  • Are you trying so hard to please your mom by your gifts, and yet a simple “I love you, Mom!” makes her day complete?
  • Have you been trying to make your girlfriend smile through your “How are you, dear?” using your mobile phone, and yet it’s only when you accompany her shopping all day that has made her smile so bright?
  • Are you asking yourself now “I think Dad doesn’t love me, I’ve been helping him diligently in every tasks, but why is it that it’s when I give him some gifts that I get recognized?”
  • Have you been trying to buy monthsary (anniversary counted by months) gifts for your boyfriend, and yet it’s when you say “Let me help you finish that task..” that you seem to make him happy?
  • Have you been with your friend in every occasion, but it seems a simple “pat in the back” is more appreciated?

Perhaps, your loved ones do have a different Love Language from what you’ve expected from them…

Dr. Gary Chapman in his book “The 5 Love Languages” clearly describes each love languages.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Source: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/

Try to learn their Love Languages, and of course, learn yours too!

~ Eric

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I’ll Praise You in the Storm!

Musing Music Tuesday


Praise You in the Storm
by Casting Crowns

I was sure by now
God you would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say “Amen”, and it’s still raining

As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain
“I’m with you”
And as You mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away

I’ll praise You in this storm
And I will lift my hands
For You are who You are
No matter where I am
Every tear I’ve cried
You hold in Your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when
I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry
You raised me up again
My strength is almost gone
How can I carry on
If I can’t find You

As the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
“I’m with you”
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away

I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth

Have you felt that everything is not going as what you’ve planned, imagined or wished?
Or perhaps, things are going the exact opposite?

This song somehow encouraged me strongly not to focus on those unimportant things, but rather on the most important thing of all – my relationship with my Father, my God, my Savior Jesus!

Even at the midst of the storm – my confusions, my frustrations, my failures, my weaknesses, my hopelessness, my frailty, my stubbornness, Jesus is still in control of everything!

And the truth is, He is whispering at me at those times. It’s just that I never listened.

As I listen to this song, I remember the story of Job. And comparing what I am in right now with everything Job has experienced, all I’ve encountered is just a speck.

  • Job‘s sources of income, his animals, died
  • Job‘s sons and daughters died, all of them
  • Job acquired a skin disease from scalp of his head to his feet causing him excruciating pain

But his response to all of this shocks me!

18 While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, “Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother’s house, 19 when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!”

20 At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship 21 and said:
“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,
and naked I will depart.
The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away;
may the name of the LORD be praised.” (Job 1:18-21)

Indeed, I will lift my eyes unto the hills!
Where would my help come from?

My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth!

I will praise you even amidst the storm!

~ Eric

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Different Types of Love

Quondam Quote Thursday

“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”

~ Sam Keen

loveI was given a sort of an assessment about love by a friend of mine who is currently taking up a course on Behavioral Science.

It was a test to find out what Style of Love I somehow possess.

Doing some little research, these are the 6 Different Types of Love:

1. Eros Love. Eros lovers tend to emphasize romantic relationships, physical beauty, desire, and physical attraction. Relationships based on eros love tend to fizzle quickly, because these types of lovers can’t maintain this high level of passion. An eros lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves an intense focus on the emotional aspects of love, including finding different ways to express love.

2. Pragma Love. Pragma lovers are rational and practical – and so is their approach to romance and healthy relationships. This type of lover decides to love someone who best fits their requirements and meets their needs. Pragma lovers assess potential partners for appropriate education levels, professions, income, social status, common interests, parent potential, and material possessions. A pragma lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship doesn’t focus on the emotional aspects of love.

3. Storge Love. Storge lovers focus on friendship to build a healthy relationship. This style of love usually begins with a strong friendship, which eventually develops into feelings of romantic love and intimacy. The sexual aspect of storge love tends to be less important than the friendship aspect (making the approach to romance a lower priority). A storge lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship focuses on caring, compassion, and heart-to-heart discussions.

4. Agape Love. Agape lovers are known for their selfless love or brotherly love. Agape love is also know as “divine love” because it’s self-sacrificing and altruistic love. An agape lover’s approach to a healthy relationship focuses on giving without any expectations or strings attached. Agape love is best suited for the love of God, saints and martyrs because healthy romantic relationships require a balance of giving and receiving (not just giving, as an agape lover would tend to do).

5. Ludus Love. Ludus lovers tend to be game players in romance. Ludus lovers are addicted to the excitement of forming a romantic relationship, and aren’t as enthralled by building a healthy long-term marriage. A ludus lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves the thrill of the chase and the thrill of new romance, not the work of building a long-term commitment.

6. Mania Love. Remember Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction? She was a manic lover: possessive, dependent, jealous, and controlling. These are signs of addictive relationships — not healthy romantic love! A manic lover’s approach to a “healthy” romantic relationship focuses on turmoil, extreme reactions, and even obsession. Mania love can involve threats, stalking, or worse.

These six styles of romance, intimacy, and friendship are based on Canadian sociologist John Allen Lee’s theory of love.

Source: http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/6_styles_of_love

love never failsOf the six, the test showed that somehow Pragma is the most dominant for me, followed by Storge.

Hmm.. Perhaps, circumstances have led me into this state. Being the eldest among my siblings, and the major source of income for the family, I couldn’t help but think of my family’s status before entering into “serious relationships”. And I believe, that’s where we are currently tested as a family – to trust God even though your sinking into the pit of financial debt (a mistake of the past), and to put our hope in Him knowing He is still in control.

Well, I really wish I have the Agape love, the kind of love – the unconditional love,  Christ has showed me when He saved me from my wretched state and into His saving and loving arms.

That when everything else around me seems to fail,
And when my faith seems to falter,
When all I hold on to seems to be gone,
And all my hopes and dreams  seem to vanish.
When things are not going as I first expected,
And frustrations seem to eat away my flickering faith…

Whenever I look at your love for me,
And focus on your unconditional love,
Everything around me starts to dim,
Giving me another reason to strive,

And run this race called “life”,
For You and only You, my God, my Friend.

~ Erickson Ibana

The quote for today doesn’t seem to apply for me at the moment, but I really wish time would come for that. And I believe things will fall into their proper places at the right time – in God’s perfect time.

I somehow feel it’s soon… :)

~ Eric

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An Epiphany About Life

Musing Music Tuesday

Lian, Batangas

picture courtesy of Carla Flores

Lian, Batangas

picture courtesy of Carla Flores

Lian, Batangas

picture courtesy of Carla Flores

I’ve just had a wonderful time with my friends! We’ve spent the whole day at a beach located at Lian, Batangas.

It was a time of relaxation for me, a time to unwind.

In this excursion, I have realized certain things.

  1. I could swim! Well, actually I can, if my feet could touch the ground. But whenever it’s too deep or I “know” that it’s deep, I feel nervous making me sink. However, I’ve just realized that I also could swim even if my feet could not reach the ground!
  2. God is awesome, and His creation declares it! I’ve seen such beauty, the beauty of nature that mirrors back the glory of its Creator. I’ve seen schools of fish, magnificent rocks curved by the rushing waves, the unnoticeable ebbing tide, the seashells, the serenity of the place…
  3. I am not all alone. Well, I know I am not alone, but I have comprehended more on this aspect when I’ve been with my friends once again.
  4. My heart says something, yet my mind says another. My heart says “Fall in love…”, but my mind says “What if… How about…”

The last bothers me most… And this song just popped out of my mind.


Faith is Living
by John Waller

I wish I could see just three steps in front of me
But the lamp unto my feet it only moves when I take a step
And believe Your word to me Lord, You have a history
That proves You’re worthy of my faith

It’s the evidence of things I cannot see
And Faith it’s the confidence that You are holding me
It’s stepping out, it’s breaking through
All my doubts and all I thought I knew
‘Cause you’ve never lived until you’ve lived
(By faith)
You’ve never lived until you’ve lived
By faith

I want to be a man like Abraham
He went to a foreign land ’cause You said go
He trusted You by faith
Of a tiny mustard see to mountains we can speak
Believe and move them by faith

You are who You say You are
And You will do what You have promised to
And I believe

You’ve never lived until you’ve lived by faith
You’ve never lived until you’ve trusted grace
You’ve never lived till you lay it all down
So come and live, faith is living

Indeed, faith is living…

Quoting:

“I know not what the future holds, but I know who holds the future.”
~Author Unknown

Hebrews 11:1 says:

1Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.

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Time Of Love

Storied Story Saturday

TimeThe man came home from work late again, tired and irritated, to find his 5 year old son waiting for him at the door.

Daddy, may I ask you a question?”

“Yeah, sure, what is it?” replied the man.

“Daddy, how much money do you make an hour?”

“That’s none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?” the man said angrily.

“I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?” pleaded the little boy.

“If you must know, I make $20.00 an hour.”

“Oh,” the little boy replied, head bowed.

Looking up, he said, “Daddy, may I borrow $10.00 please?”

sad boyThe father was furious. “If the only reason you wanted to know how much money I make is just so you can borrow some to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you’re being so selfish. I work long, hard hours everyday and don’t have time for such childish games.” The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even madder about the little boy’s questioning. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money.

After an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think he may have been a little hard on his son. Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $10.00, and he really didn’t ask for money very often.

The man went to the Door of the little boy’s room and opened the door. “Are you asleep son?” he asked.

“No daddy, I’m awake,” replied the boy.

“I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier,” said the man. “It’s been a long day and I took my aggravation out on you. Here’s that $10.00 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, beaming. “Oh, thank you daddy!” he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some more crumpled up bills. The man, since the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at the man.

“Why did you want more money if you already had some?” the father grumbled.

“Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,” the little boy replied.

“Daddy, I have $20.00 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?”

~Author Unknown
Source: http://www.touchinglovestories.com/lovestory247.htm

Pause for a while.

How much time have you spent pleasing your boss – working so hard for the company?
How much time have you spent saying your “Good morning, son… Take your breakfast… Bye, son, see you later” before you go to work?

How much time have you spent with your workmates during your recreational/team building activities?
How much time have you spent appreciating the work-of-art drawing of your daughter while having your coffee at your right hand, the newspapers on the other hand?

Then when your children grew up to be a misguided and rebellious adult, (well.. not like you, you think..) you ask bitterly, “Where did I go wrong? Isn’t it that I worked so hard for them? Isn’t it that those Overtimes at work are for them – to have a better future?”

Really?

25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:25-34)

Choose what’s more important for you, and spend more time on it… more time of love.

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UNICEF Philippines – Champions For Children

Today I have been a part of UNICEF Philippines – Champions For Children by supporting through donations and by being an advocate through this blog!

UNICEF Donor Card

And I received this card with the pictures of cute little kids.

Champions For Children logoChampions for Children is a community of individuals whose regular contributions enable a growing number of Filipino children to enjoy the right to education, healthcare and nutrition as well as protection from neglect, abuse and exploitation.

But does UNICEF—an international organization with government and corporate partners—really need the support of individual champions?  Yes!  When pooled together, the modest yet regular monthly donations made by individual donors like you add up to provide us with a steady and reliable source of funds. This kind of committed funding is necessary for us to sustain ongoing projects and map out long-term strategies in the fight for children’s rights.  It also allows us to quickly respond when and where the need is greatest, such as providing emergency relief during calamities, times of conflict and other critical situations.

How can the donations help?

To be a Champion for Children is to be a champion for change.

All funds raised will be used to help children in the Philippines. Here’s how:

  • Many children die before their 5th birthday, but your Php600 / month can help 6 children survive by providing life-saving medical treatments.
  • Most children don’t get to finish the 6th grade, but your Php 500 / month can help 5 children stay in school with books and basic supplies.

Php 20.00 per day = Php 600 per month
Php 16.67 per day = Php 500 per month

With your pledge…
YOU are helping change the future of Filipino children
YOU are a UNICEF partner in championing the rights of children

If you’re interested, you may visit the UNICEF Philippines – Champions For Children site.

UNICEF Philippines – Be Champions For Children today!

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1/21 Character: Be A Piece Of The Rock

Book Nook Friday

What must every person know about character?

1. Character Is More than Talk3d man
Anyone can say that he has integrity, but action is the real indicator of character.

Your character determines who you are.
Who you are determines what you see.
What you see determines what you do.

That’s why you can never separate a leader’s character from his actions.
If a leader’s actions and intentions are continually working against each other, then look to his character to find out why.

2. Talent Is a Gift, but Character Is a Choice
We have no control over a lot of things in life. We don’t get to choose our parents. We don’t select the location or circumstances of our birth and upbringing. We don’t get to pick our talents or IQ. But we do choose our character. In fact, we create it every time we make choices – to cop out or dig out of a hard situation, to bend the truth or stand under the weight of it, to take the easy money or pay the price. As you live your life and make choices today, you are continuing to create your character.

3. Character Brings Lasting Success with People
True leadership always involves people. (As the leadership proverb says, if you think you’re leading and no one is following you, then you’re only taking a walk.) Followers do not trust leaders whose character they know to be flawed, and they will not continue following them.

4. Leaders Cannot Rise Above the Limitations of Their Character
Have you ever seen highly talented people suddenly fall apart when they achieved a certain level of success? The key to that phenomenon is character. Steven Berglas, a psychologist at Harvard Medical School and author of The Success Syndrome, says that people who achieve great heights but lack the bedrock character to sustain them through the stress are headed for disaster. He believes they are destined for one or more of the four A’s: arrogance, painful feelings of aloneness, destructive adventure-seeking, or adultery. Each is a terrible price to pay for weak character.

This is the first quality John Maxwell stated in his book The 21 Indispensable Qualities of A Leader. I am going to feature one quality every Friday for our Book Nook Friday! :)

treeAs I read once again to his book, I asked myself, “Has my character developed more compared to last year, or has it deteriorated more? Have I compromised already to the point of labeling those ‘wrong’ things as ‘right’? God, has my faith been deepen in You , like the roots of a tree beside a flowing river, entrusting you my every day choices that I could say that my character is good enough?”

The scary thing about a leader is that whenever he climbs up the ladder of success, fame, or popularity – the higher he gets, the more painful it is when he falls flat to the ground. And the thing that could sustain him through those tough times, hardships, and failures – his character that has been developed through time.

Then how could one develop his character? The answer is… through his actions!

In every decision he makes, it is either his character develops – if he stands up for the truth; or his character deteriorates – if he compromises the truth for his own pleasure.

Quoting John Maxwell:

Everything rises and falls on leadership. And leadership truly develops from the inside out. If you can become the leader you ought to be on the inside, you will be able to become the leader you want to be on the outside. People will want to follow you. And when that happens, you’ll be able to tackle anything in this world.

~ Eric

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